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Should I walk the aisle?This forum post has messages dated from 12/04/08 through 06/05/10, please be sure to read all the messages. If you feel it is old or outdated, please follow up with a question or comment and someone may be able to update it, or reply with newer information if you have it. - Marriage Counseling
| Should I walk the aisle?I am engaged, and soon to get married. But I'm having doubts, and am concerned if they are real, or if it's a matter of cold feet. I'm getting very anxious of what I am about to do. I've known my fiancee for 2 years now. We have a great friendship, we trust each other, and comunicate very well. There has never been a problem with any of these. I have to also confess that part of my decision to get married is to not be alone anymore (I'm 48), and family and friends have made me feel some pressure, but not an overwhelming amount. My decision was one I believe based on a mind and thought process, but not entirely from within my heart. I also feel that at 48 my heart is less impacted than it was at 28. I've had past relationships where a strong passion feeling within my heart was there, but they just didn't last, and problems with either companionship, trust or friendship arose. In this relationship, I feel that we are best friends, but I do feel some component of passion from my heart missing. Am I missing a critical element in this relationship, or is it normal for the heart to become less passionate at an older age? |
|  hey man, don't take it so deep. try to set back and think of why you want to marry her, what is the one thing about her that you could not live out. if you can pinpoint just one thing about her that is most important to your relationship with her, and focus on that passion will come to you both. my wife and were friends first and that grew to love, and soon to a great passion. once irealized that she was everything i am not, and vice-versa, i knew she was the one forever. and even after 3 years of marriage we sometimes feel the passion between us gets lost in the midst of lifes general problems but we find ways every once in a while to bring back that spark because deep down in i know that i couldn't live without her. if you have that your going to be just fine, i promise... and dont let other people get in the way, if you love her for who she is no one elses opinion will matter. |
| You are not getting any younger David and I must say that this is the chance for you to get a wife and grab that opportunity. Who would know what will happen if you aged, who will be there to take care of you? I mean with your age being in love is something but you have to be practical. Do not let those thoughts cloud your mind. Good luck on your marriage. |
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