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MARTIAL PROBLEMSThis forum post has messages dated from 10/01/06 through 06/21/10, please be sure to read all the messages. If you feel it is old or outdated, please follow up with a question or comment and someone may be able to update it, or reply with newer information if you have it. - Marriage Counseling
| MARTIAL PROBLEMSHello,My wife and I have been married for 6 years and soon will be our 7th. We have 2 beautiful children and a third on the way. The stresses in our marraige center around the relationships that we have with our families. For some reason, my wife is very stand offish with my parents and siblings. She keeps them "at arms length" I'm not sure why this has happened or developed, but its here. Anytime I confront the issue directly....she gets very upset and yells and tells me that I need counseling. Tonight, my parents had visited and my wife came home feom a meeting. Now, I know she is pregnant and tired, but she clearly din't exchange even the slightest of pleasantries, bascically went right upstairs and laid down. When I confronted her she got very upset (my parents heard the yelling) and of course felt terrible. They have sensed her feelings to them for a long time but have been sort of "sweeping it under the rug" as have I. I want to add that her parents are divorced and I know that has had an impact on her. Sometimes I think she's taking out her feelings of having parents that were divorced on mine who have kept their marraige together. I tried talking to her tonight but her response is "you need counseling!! I like your parents, and your family ...I hate the way you treat me around your parents!" The other thing she does is run to our children. Who of course were terrified to hear their mother crying and screaming. My son is 5 and was especially affected. I feel like she wants to have them side against me. Of course they say "don't lake mommy sad" after hearing the fights. Sometimes I wonder if my marraige can be saved. I don't want my children to suffer, and deep down I love my wife. She just wont "open herself up" drop her guard and talk to me about any of this. Her response is always that I need counseling...so here I am ....HELP!! |
|  i can see you have quite a dilhemma on your hands. but there really is a way to fix this with out puting yourself in the blame. she says you need to go to counseling about this so go. for one she'll apreciate you making the effort and respecting her oppinion of you. and two, you just may learn something about the real source of this problem she has with your parents. not so much on you but perhaps by talking to her about the things you learning from the counselling and making her a part of the process, she will see you opening up to her, and do the same. if that doesnt work then she just doesnt want it to be a good subject so find ways around them having to see each other for awhile, maeybe take the kids to see your parents and give her a day to herself, or something like that. but whatever you do never push the issue of her and your parents let her bring it up to you. let me know how things work out, i wish you the best of luck. |
| Ohh, that is indeed a problem that you are facing right now. I do not know much on psychology and stuffs but I have to say that your wife might be suffering too with her work and with her current status being pregnant. I think you should pay extra attention with her feelings as well because when a woman got pregnant she is suffering from lots of hormonal imbalances that might be the cause of all of those mood swings. |
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