'Violent Bipolar Husband promises he will change?' Domestic Violence

Violent Bipolar Husband promises he will change?

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Forum Post elisheva20 United States

Violent Bipolar Husband promises he will change? My husband was diagnosed bipolar two years ago. He has been verbally and mentally abusive and has become physically abusive- all in front of our two small children. I finally decided to leave him a month ago when after he hit me, I called the police. When the police got there he lied and said I hit him and I almost got arrested. He has also threatened to kill me. We have been married for 4 years and I only stayed with him because I am a christian and I do not believe in divorce. But I realized God doesnt want me to be treated this way. Also, I do not want my boys to grow up thinking that is acceptable behavior. Since I left my husband, he has gone from one extreme to the next. Sometimes he threatens to kill himself, sometimes he tells me he is glad we are apart and that I have ruined his life, and sometimes he tells me that he loves me and he needs my help to get better. I do feel obligated to him since I vowed to be committed to him for better or worse. Also, I think, what if I was the one who had bipolar disorder and was acting out? I would want him to be supportive of me. I do not know what to do. I have been so much happier on my own, I am finally free. The only thing that is holding me back from filing for divorce is the hope that he might really change. Any suggestions?

#1 julie kansas

"LORD KNOWS..." Lord knows... This has to be hard. Yet it is so hard to understand Gods PLAN. Its like why did God send my christian soul someone of this calibur... lol Its sad you are going through this I know the feeling... My advice for you is to continue strong in your faith... God dont make mistakes... there is a reason why God connected you & your husband.. even though its tough to see. Try to believe in your marriage, I know its hard because Im going through something kinda the same... with a looney hubby. Im not even in love with my hubby anymore. sad i know... he made those promises to me as well, he has really turned me off this time ... he blacked my eye and face good and i cant believe he is still wanting to be together after that. my hubby & I Have a GOOD Mariage on the outside... NICE HOUSE, VEHICLES, BUSINESS... but Im not happy, & obviously he isnt either to go that far. We have tried it all Casting out Demons, Praying all day, reading the Bible every night, I let him pray for us (SPRITUAL LEADER), we even take the blood & body of Christ Daily... But the Devil always seems to kick our butts... Im sad now after he did that to my eye, ... My eye didnt hurt much, as my heart did/ does... I was soooo disappointed in his actions & words... its still hard to swallow... because I had trusted in him, but most of all GOD, but its hard to TRUST my hubby again, I dont feel secure, its like why set myself up to get hurt again... ( we just had our first child hes 5 months its been a lot on me...) I understand your pain & concern to stay gone or help.... LISTEN, Jesus loves us all... I know its not worth dying for trying to save & love your hubby, But God will appreciate you trusting THEE, & knowing he is always on time... Your hubby does need you, & God choose you for him... Its somebody out there for everybody... I question myself everyday, & CRY! my hubby thinks he can buy forgiveness... Im sooo messed up now it seems like im going in depression.. i dont even feel like shopping, he had the nerve to say lets get you a expensive fur... lol I dont even want it... but my hubby is putting in efforts to get better I ordered these vitamin pills (JIM CAREY USES THEM), & they have been working for him I guess, because you know its not a everyday thing, its just seems as if I married to different people...( he is a gemini)... when he goes over board! Its scary to stay with them, but God already has the blueprint of our lives, I would hate that it ended trying to love & help someone... But the end result from God will out weigh any of the earthly Pains... Trust God he will protect you & heal your marriage in Jesus NAME.....

#2 julie kansas

"cont. LORD KNOWS...." THE VITAMINS THAT MY HUBBY TAKES ARE "PROTAZEN"... I DONT KNOW HOW WELL THEY WORK BUT MY HUBBY CLAIMS THEY DO, AND HE CLAIMS TO BE SOOOO HAPPY EVERYDAY NOW? HE POPS THEM EVEN WHEN HE FEELS ANY PRESSURE, OR THINKS ABOUT HOW BAD HE'S DONE ME... IF YOUR HUBBY LOVES YOU AND THE FAMILY HE WILL TRY WHATEVER MAY HELP, .. I BOUGHT 6 BOTTLES LOL BE BLESSED

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