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husbandThis forum post has messages dated from 11/08/10 through 12/06/10, please be sure to read all the messages. If you feel it is old or outdated, please follow up with a question or comment and someone may be able to update it, or reply with newer information if you have it. - Bipolar Disorder
| husbandHello everyone, I've been married to my wife for 5 years. We have two kids together and a third(oops!) on the way. She is bipolar and does not take medication. She does live a life of all natural and organic food. She gets adjusted from a chiropractor on a regular basis. We have financial problems to the tune of 80, 000.00 owed to the IRS alone and they are growing. She insist on handling the money. When I handled it the bills were paid regularly but we did not have much left over for spending sprees and she feels like I controlled her. We had a separation two years ago and thats when I gave in to many things to save our marriage. We continue to have problems with ups/downs, highs and lows but we are finding our way thru most of them. I'm at the point that I just give in to whatever and letting her do what she wants or what she thinks is best for our family. Our kids need Mom and Dad and we must find away to make our relationship work. I'm starting to get depressed alot when things are falling apart. I rely on my beliefs and faith in GOD to get me thru most days. Lately I'm the reason that our marriage is having problems, why our 15 year old(my step-son) steals money, candy and eats food out of the garbage when he is being punished. I'll do what ever it takes to save this marriage. Reading the Bible, praying and attending church seems to help me help us. |
|  "I'll do what ever it takes to save this marriage"
What exactly are you saving? Sounds like you are living in hell and are planning to do whatever it takes to stay there! |
| ""I'll do what ever it takes to save this marriage""
I understand. I have been married almost 30 years to my husband and he has just been diagnosed after 19+ years of antidepressents and many ups and downs and three affairs.I have been giving in a great deal but have started going to a Christian counselor who is doing so much for me and helping me to stay focused. It is so hard because he constantly tries to leave me and threatens it a great deal. I believe for better or worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health until death do you part. Keep praying and reading the Bible. Try to get her on meds, he is now on additional meds and we are trying to get him regulated, but we aren't there yet. God will get you through this - he doesn't give us more than we can handle. You will take much ridicule from people who don't understand but again let God lead you not man. Blessings. |
| I never know how strong I was until being strong was the only choice I had. I admire the your efforts to save your family because it's really hard to see your children longing for a complete family if you will be separated with your wife. And it won't happen if you will remain and be strong with your faith in God. Just keep on praying and find ways to reach out your wife. |
| That is true. It is really hard to save a marriage most especially if the people involved are not doing their best in saving the relationship. And to think of the situation with the wife or the husband is bipolar, surely that would be much harder. But as a family, couples must always think of their kids and how the family would be if they got separated. So do not give up just yet. |
| I take it that you're a Catholic because that's what our priests and teachers in Catholic school told us: that we should preserve our marriage no matter what. Well, I see nothing wrong with that but you have to make sure that you're marrying only for love because marriage is already full of challenges as it is. Living married life with someone you don't love would make it even harder. Just keep the faith and believe that everything will be alright. |
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