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Get out while you can!This forum post is dated 02/21/11. If you feel it is old or outdated, please follow up with a question or comment and someone may be able to update it, or reply with newer information if you have it. - Bipolar Disorder
| Get out while you can! I dated a guy I thought I was going to marry. He seemed so wonderful, loving, kind, etc. He was everything I had been praying for in a man all these years. I moved in with him and we were moving toward marriage. I started noticing alot of strange behaviors. He became edgy and cranky and it went to the far extremes from there. I was in shock at his behavior and how he saw the world. It's as if he had changed over night. He would go from one extreme to the other. I finally connected the dots and discovered he is bi polar. He is in his late 30's and has been married 3 times. He would become violent and out of control and then look at me and say "you have an anger issue and you need to get help". It became insane!!! The way he would try to turn everything around on the other person. Never taking responsibility for any of his crazy behaviors. It amazed me how this guy could be prince charming and so wonderful and then switch to act like the devil himself. He was the most cruel when I found out I was pregnant. He treated me horable and I ended up having a miscarriage. He was cold as ice and completely cruel!!! He had no compassion for what I was going through at all. I ended up talking to his 3rd ex-wife who told me he treated her the same way when she got pregnant and she ended up loosing the baby also because of the stress. This man is very sick and dangerous. He wouldn't come home with me for Christmas and then showed up with a diamond ring wanting to get married...6 days later he broke up with me through a text message and then the next day drove 12 hours to tell me how much he loves me. Talk about crazy and extreme. I just couldn't keep up with the mood swings and the roller coaster ride. It is so tramatic because when he was "normal"...he was the most wonderful man in the world, but when he shifted...it was a living hell and I had no idea what he was capable of. He really scared me!!! I'm trying to move forward with my life and move beyond all the craziness. I'm a strong smart woman and I would have never seen myself caught up in this kind of relationship. I mean...who goes into a relationship looking for mental illness?! It totally caught me off guard and it took me sometime just to figure out what was happening. The sad thing is...these people appear to be so wonderful and try to hide their illness. Once you are in deep and totally in love with them...then all the craziness comes out. I've broken completely away from this guy but I hate the fact that I still love him and miss him. I have to keep reminding myself that those who suffer from bi polar have a 90% failure rate in marriage. This guy already has 3 failed marriages and the reality is....he will probably neve have a successful relationship. He thinks everyone else is crazy and he is the only sane one around. He won't go get help becasue he doesn't think anything is wrong with him. What a miserable life it would have been if I would have married this guy. I'm so thankful I was able to see all the sign before I married him and put an end to the violent relationship before he seriously hurt me. If you are broken hearted and trying to get over someone with bi polar. Try to remind yourself you deserve a normal happy life and most of the time it is not possible with some who has this kind of illness. Get out while you can!!!!!! It will only get worse if you don't!!!! |
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